Think with Your Heart – The Ultimate Self-Care

Heart Driven Journal Prompts

Have you ever felt a deep, visceral sensation in your chest area that couldn’t quite be explained by physical factors alone? Maybe it was a profound sense of joy, love, or a mysterious feeling of just knowing that seemed to radiate from the very core of your being. If so, you’ve likely tapped into the incredible power and intelligence of your heart energy, the very thing that guides your decisions and shapes your life.

For centuries, we’ve been led to believe that the heart is nothing more than a physical pump, a notion that cutting-edge science is now challenging. The emerging understanding is that our hearts are not just organs but intricate energy centers, wielding a profound influence over our emotions, thoughts, and overall well-being (Retrieved March 2024, HeartMath Institute).

Your heart is not just a physical organ but a complex system with its own nervous system. It can sense, process information, and make decisions independently of the brain. This is not just metaphysical wisdom but a scientifically proven fact. Studies have shown that our hearts are powerful vortexes of electromagnetic energy that shape our realities in significant ways.

Contrary to the traditional self-care practices that often involve external pampering, heart-centered living is a unique approach. It’s about quieting the constant mental chatter and tuning into the subtle sensations and feelings from our heart space. This unlocks a new level of self-awareness and self-care, empowering us to make choices that align with our deepest values, desires, and soul’s calling. It liberates us from the pressures of external expectations, offering instant anxiety relief!

This kind of self-care is about far more than pampering facials or hot stone massages (even though those can meaningfully improve our well-being, too)! Heart-based self-care is a transformative journey of self-discovery, emotional healing, and awakening to your most genuine, authentic, radiant self. It’s a path that promises a new, more fulfilling way of living.

So, instead of just going through the motions of traditional self-care practices, I invite you to pause, place your hands over your heart center, and practice feeling from that sacred space within. I know it can seem a bit unconventional at first, but rest assured, the science unequivocally supports the profound importance of tuning into our heart intelligence.

Keep in mind that as women, we are naturally more heart-centered and intuitive, so why not embrace this incredible gift we’ve been given? Let’s move beyond the superficial self-care trends and go deeper—straight to the source of our infinite power, wisdom, and radiance.

The Heart-Brain Connection

Think about a time from your past when your gut instinct told you something wasn’t quite right, even though everything seemed fine on the surface. Maybe it was a subtle feeling of unease when your partner canceled plans at the last minute or a nagging doubt about their sincerity.

In those instances, you were tapping into the instinctive wisdom of your heart. Despite what your logical mind might have said, your heart’s intuitive knowing signaled a deeper truth. This heart-mind connection is the foundation of our emotional intelligence in relationships.

Just as our hearts beat independently of our conscious control, they also possess their own neural network, often referred to as the “heart brain.” This network allows our hearts to process emotions, form memories, and make decisions in ways that complement, and sometimes contradict, the rational analysis of our minds (2019, NCBI.NLM.NIH).

Have you ever considered the intricate conversation happening between your heart and brain? It’s a dynamic exchange that extends far beyond what we might imagine. Your heart is engaged in a continuous dialogue with your brain through a multitude of channels – neurological impulses, biochemical messengers, pressure waves, and electromagnetic field interactions. And this heart-brain crosstalk isn’t a one-way street. Research published in the National Library of Medicine, PubMed, indicates that the heart sends more information to the brain than vice versa (2023, NCBI.NLM.NIH). Fascinating stuff!

The heart-brain connection also suggests that engaging in self-care practices that nurture the heart’s energy, such as self-reflection, emotional awareness, and practices that foster a positive mindset, can help reprogram limiting subconscious beliefs and promote holistic well-being (2020, NCBI.NLM.NIH).

When the heart–brain connection is solid, everything just clicks into alignment. You experience heightened intuition, emotional resilience, and a deep sense of coherence in your body, mind, and spirit.

But when the heart-brain connection gets disrupted – sometimes due to self-limiting beliefs we’ve carried since childhood, unresolved emotional turmoil, chronic stress, or toxic lifestyle factors – that’s when things can really go haywire. Inflammation increases, heart rhythms become erratic, decision-making gets clouded, and you start feeling out-of-sorts on all levels.

To counter these negative factors, practices like self-awareness journaling, meditation, breathwork, yoga, music, and spending time in nature can have a significant positive impact precisely because they nurture and harmonize the heart-brain energetic pathways. These holistic self-care methods activate the parasympathetic nervous system—the body’s natural “relaxation response”—which balances the heart’s rhythms and electromagnetic field.

When the heart-brain lines of communication are solid and strong, your heart’s intuitive signals come through loud and clear. You start operating from that deeper wisdom of your authentic self rather than the fear-based conditioning of your subconscious mind. Tough decisions feel easier, emotional triggers don’t throw you off-kilter, and you experience greater presence and flow in your daily life.

Let Your Heart Guide You

In a world where our minds are constantly analyzing and judging, it’s easy to overlook the deep wisdom that exists within our hearts. Often, we rush through life, neglecting our emotional well-being under the guise of not having enough time or feeling undeserving of moments of peace.

Yet, when we slow down and turn inward, something remarkable occurs. We tap into a deep reservoir of inner guidance, allowing us to cut through the fog of uncertainty and align with our soul’s truth. You may be surprised how pausing to attune to your heart overrides self-sabotaging habits like people-pleasing or harsh self-criticism.

This is because our heart is a sophisticated energy field attuned to the delicate nuances of our body, emotions, and surroundings. This heart intelligence communicates through whispers – gentle nudges, fleeting sensations, and wordless insights that guide us toward what’s truly best for our well-being.

But here’s the thing – this guidance is subtle. It doesn’t compete with the clamor of our thoughts; it gestures us to listen closely. So, how do we tune into our heart’s voice amidst the noise?

The first step is presence. Through conscious breathing, we quiet the chatter of our minds and attune ourselves to the rhythm of our hearts. From this centered space, we invite in our questions and dilemmas, allowing our hearts to speak through sensations, insights, or intuitive flashes. Sometimes, the guidance comes through as a physical sensation like warm expansiveness, goosebumps, or ‘butterflies’ in your stomach.

With repetition, this process becomes second nature, fostering coherence between our heart’s electromagnetic field and our brain’s neural activity. Decisions guided by our hearts lead us away from societal pressures and ingrained fears, guiding us back to our core needs and desires.

This practice is about trust – trusting in the wisdom that lives within us, in the inherent intelligence of our hearts. As we make heart-centered choices, life unfolds with grace and synchronicity, effortlessly aligning with our authentic path.

So, why not make heart-thinking a daily ritual? Take a moment to check in with your heart before making any decision, big or small. Pay attention to the subtle language it uses to communicate its timeless wisdom.

Deepening Your Self-Care Through Sacred Ritual

The conventional narrative surrounding self-care often falls short, skimming the surface of what true healing entails. Mainstream messaging via advertising and social media may emphasize indulgent spa treatments, retail therapy, or trendy workout classes—activities that, while enjoyable and beneficial, may not always nurture us at the deepest level.

Authentic self-care transcends superficiality and passing fads. It’s a deeply personal journey of connecting with your heart’s innermost desires and honoring the profound wisdom within. While indulging in spa days or intense workouts can provide temporary relief, the most transformative acts of self-care often lie in simple yet profound rituals that attune you to the whispers of your heart.

Nurture your heart with these powerful practices:

  • Heart Blessings: Use your hands to send blessings of love and healing into your heart center. Visualize radiating those vibrations outward, cultivating connection with all beings or focusing on a specific person, pet, or intention.
  • Heart-Centered Spiritual or Religious Prayer: Rather than routine recitations, engage in profound presence, vulnerability, and listening. Open yourself as a vessel to receive divine guidance, inspiration, or inner clarity.
  • Sacred Ritual: Call upon plants, incense, crystals, feathers, or candles to amplify your meditative state. The ritual of smudging with sacred herbs can energetically reset and purify your heart space.
  • Mindful Nature Walk: Stay present with your breath while awakening your senses to the intelligent energy flowing through all living beings in nature.
  • Reflective Journaling: Engage in intimate dialogue, courageously asking your heart what it needs. You may be surprised by the clarity and guidance that arises when you truly listen.
  • Stillness and Solitude: In this “go-go-go” culture, the art of sacred pause – simply being and letting go of constant doing – may be the most radical act of self-care, giving your heart’s subtle voice permission to be heard.

These sacred rituals serve as reminders of our inherent sacredness, bridging the gap between the mundane and the spiritual. When practiced with devotion, they become powerful catalysts for inner transformation, grounding you in your authentic truth.

Heart-centered self-care is about honoring yourself as the precious individual you are—beyond physical appearance or societal expectations. By infusing presence, authenticity, and wonder into your daily rituals, you tap into an infinite wellspring of inner peace, creativity, and self-acceptance.

Let go of preconceived notions of self-care. Embrace the uniqueness of your journey and allow genuine acts of reverence to blossom from within.

The Power of Surrounding Yourself with Positive Energy

Scientific research suggests that the heart’s electromagnetic field may play a significant role in our relationships and social interactions. Studies have shown that the heart’s energy field can extend 8-10 feet around the body, and this field can interact with and influence the energy fields of those around us (2009, HeartMath Institute).

The concept that “you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with” speaks to the profound impact our social connections can have on our thoughts, emotions, and overall well-being. Surrounding ourselves with people who radiate positive energy, compassion, and heart-centered awareness can have an optimistic, life-changing effect on our own energy and outlook.

Conversely, spending time with people who are consistently negative, critical, or emotionally draining can negatively impact our heart’s energy and our ability to prioritize true self-care. 

By being mindful of the energetic quality of our relationships and social circles, we can foster a supportive environment that nurtures our heart’s wisdom and empowers us to prioritize our own well-being.

Actively cultivating heart coherence through practices like meditation, breathwork, and self-reflection allows us to create a harmonious and radiant energy field that positively affects our interactions and relationships. This heart-centered awareness not only benefits our own well-being but also has the potential to create a ripple effect of positivity and connection in our relationships, our communities, and the world at large.

Understanding the science behind the heart’s energy and its profound influence on our relationships and social environments empowers us to make more informed choices about the company we keep and the energy we choose to cultivate within ourselves and our surroundings.


True self-care isn’t just about following some superficial routine; it’s an intimate journey of self-discovery and growth. At the end of the day, all the practices and rituals are really about creating space to go inward, to pause the endless mental chatter and busyness, and actually listen to ourselves at a deeper level.

It’s like we have this well of wisdom within us, but it gets drowned out by all the noise and distractions of daily life. The heart-centered practices help us quiet the noise so we can tune into that subtle but powerful inner voice – the one that knows what we really need to feel nourished and whole.

The cool thing is that the more we pay attention to that voice, the more it expands and starts guiding us toward our highest path of growth and purpose. What may start as a simple self-care routine can unlock profound self-acceptance, creativity, joy, and a whole new way of being that feels radically authentic to our true nature.

Modern science is finally catching up to what ancient traditions have always known—our hearts are basically the control center for our well-being on all levels—physical, emotional, and spiritual. When we learn to truly embody that heart wisdom, self-care stops feeling like a chore and starts feeling like coming home to ourselves.

So, ladies, I invite you to make this the year you get radically real with yourselves. Peel back the layers, grant yourselves full permission to simply be who you are at your core, and unapologetically thrive from that place of inner alignment. The world needs your radiance.

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Heart Driven Journal Prompts

Heart Driven Journal Prompts